Janice Ong

The single most important habit

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We all have questions in life.  Shall I quit this job?  Do I move to another location? How do I parent my child?

Then there are those deeper questions which some of us ask. Why do I feel so unhappy even though I seem to have everything?  What is my purpose in this life? Can I realise this long term dream which I have?

We have a habit of looking for answers from outside of ourselves.  Whether it is from a parenting expert or from books or from coaches we hire. 

Years ago, I had a mentor tell me that there is no substitute for spending time with yourself, asking yourself the questions and sitting with yourself listening for the answers from within. Of course I didn’t want to hear that.  I wanted her to give me the answers I was looking for.  

Fast forward a couple of years and I now get it.  I have come to realise that the single most important habit for my well being, for my sanity, my empowerment, my peace of mind, my state of joy and my fulfillment is sitting with myself, quietening my mind and just being still.

Just being still, observing and detaching from all the thoughts which we are so accustomed to thinking. 

Just being still and being with the breath, breathing in, breathing out being with the moment.

Just being still detaching from all the roles and identities we have placed on ourselves, connecting with who we are at our core.

It is from this place that we come home to ourselves. It is from this place where we can be grateful for this life, for this body, for  the challenges which are here for us to grow and transform and evolve. 

When you truely connect with who you are at the core, there is a peace from within.  The struggle stops.  There is a joy from within. It is not dependent on your circumstances and there is a strength from within.  You know that you can handle anything.  

If you are feeling like your energy is scattered, if you are feeling tired and drained or if you are feeling triggered easily, try incorporating this single most important habit into your life.  Just being still.

If you need support to do so, please reach out to me.

With gratitude.

 

Are you giving your power away?

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I know too well how if feels to be disempowered and almost like a a victim of your circumstances. For years, this has been my default unconscious pattern. But even though it seems impossible, it IS possible to take your power back and stand strong as who you are at your core.

Firstly you need to recognise when you have given your power away. This happens when you feel angry towards another person or you find yourself blaming another person for a situation you are in. There may even be resentment toward them. You feel like a victim of another or of your circumstance.

Then ask yourself these questions. Did I say yes when I really meant no?  Did I express what was in my heart and speak up for myself? Am I judging the other person, wronging them? In what way am I attacking myself by criticizing myself or putting myself down. 

Lastly, take a deep breath in see yourself pulling your power back in, then express your emotion without dumping it on someone else, speak your truth with love and build yourself back up by talking to yourself gently and with reverence..

Ok, I realise it may not be as straight forward or as easy as that but the gist of this post it that we can be aware when we give our power away, we can pull our power back in and we can stand strong in our power.

As always, please reach out if you would like help in any of the above.

With gratitude.